Your Question # 30
[#30] Hello! I've been having discussions with many men and they have said that it's not meant for men to be with one woman. My response is if God meant for men to be with multiple women then he wouldn't have limited Adam to just Eve. Then men always say its unhealthy or unnatural for women to be whores and that it's okay for men to have sex with multiple women. They explain that their bodies are built to have sex with multiple partners. ?? I couldn't believe what these men were telling me that men can't be whores! I would like to know what God would have to say about this. Is it natural for men to be whores? And are men's bodies built for it according to science?
Thanks for your question, and WOW! That's all pretty deep. May I give you the short answer first? Men and women, (humanity) are created in God's image. We are called to be faithful to ONE mate for life. In fact as a Pastor I have often said, the way to have "a piece of heaven on earth" is for all to practice, one man - one woman for life.
I must ask this (without judging) what crowd or friends do you associate with? I ask this because of your statement: "men always say". I'm a man and I know plenty of men in God's family who wouldn't say that. I definitely would not say or agree to that. Yet I understand those in the world could have this attitude, but they are worldly and lustful in thought and action and seek only to satisfy their desires.
Yes, men can be 'whorish' in their actions. The old English word for that is 'whoremonger', meaning a man who goes from partner to partner. The Bible simply calls it however 'fornication'...the Greek word "porneia", we get the word "pornography" from this. Also the Bible uses the word 'porne' to describe a woman in harlotry, and 'pornos' for men who live in this lifestyle, especially to describe a 'male prostitute'.
Let's look at the scripture: Deuteronomy 5:18 "You shall not commit adultery." This is the seventh commandment. For one (man or woman) to have more than one partner is to commit adultery. (We aren't speaking about someone who has lost a spouse through death and marries again).
Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers, God will judge." The 'fornicators' are those who practice sex outside the bonds of marriage; yes, that includes couples who are living together outside of marriage.
Jesus spoke to a woman at the well in Samaria (John 4). He is turning her heart to Him and a desire in her wants to reach out and be saved, verse 15, "Sir, give me this water, that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw." Jesus does not give her that 'living water' at first, but tells her: "Go, call your husband, and come here." She replies I don't have a husband, and Jesus says to her: "You have well said, I HAVE NO HUSBAND." For you have had five husbands and the one whom you now have is not your husband..." verse 16-18. (She was living with a man).
Also read Matthew 5:31-32. This is about divorce. Further reference is Matthew 19:1-10.
My friend, there is nothing in the Bible that remotely indicates or suggests that men have some sort of privilege or 'responsibility' to have multiple partners. This is the life of the animal kingdom not those created in God's image. A man is called to honor and respect his wife (Ephesians 5:25). Those in the world however, will follow a baser instinct and use all manner of reasoning to justify a lost and wicked lifestyle.
Men's 'bodies' are created to carry the heavy load of the family, to have strength and endurance to provide for his families' needs. It isn't created for him to spread his 'seed' to as many females as possible. He is to love and cherish his bride and give her his strength.
Listen to Job 31:1 "I have made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I look upon a young woman?" The intent here is to 'look with the intent to desire her, to want her.
Proverbs 5, 6:20-35; 7; read these passages in Proverbs they expressly give wisdom and warning to men about 'chasing' after other women.
Lastly, it is NOT natural for men or women to live a loose, licentious lifestyle. It is not only Scripturally prohibited but it is simply not SAFE. Think about this. When someone has sex with another person outside of marriage, technically they are have sex with everyone else that person has had sex with. If they contract an STD from one, and have sex with others, they can pass that disease on, and on, and on, etc. Obviously, this 'loose' lifestyle is actually unnatural according to God's holy design for man/woman relationship and for the family structure.
I hope I have answered your question and even encouraged you somewhat. This is a deep subject but one that many people today need to understand what God says about it. You may have more questions, please feel free to follow up.
My hope is if you are currently not married that you will pray and wait upon the Lord to send you a godly partner. If you are married, pray and ask God to make you a godly mate and your husband/wife to be someone who honors the Lord and loves you. There are people out there in this world who want this. I have dealt with far too many couples who have gone through the tragedy of divorce and broken relationships to know they want to find love, joy and peace in a godly marriage.
May God richly bless and give you wisdom and understanding is my prayer.